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A daughter's human relationship with her male parent can be complicated in the to the lowest degree trying of circumstances. Throw in Hollywood stardom, a rough divorce, youthful rebellion, crossed communication wires and miles of altitude, physical and emotional, and at that place'due south a recipe for two people to grow further and further autonomously.
But even the near fractured of relationships tin exist repaired when the timing is right and, despite various periods of estrangement, Angelina Jolie and her father, Jon Voight, who'due south celebrating his 80th birthday Sabbatum, have reconnected in recent years.
Jolie was 2 when Voight and her mother, Marcheline Bertrand, separated and she credits Bertrand with raising her and her brother, James Haven, on her own, with financial back up from Voight. They remained very close until Bertrand'southward death from cancer in 2007 at only 56 years one-time and when Jolie became a mom herself, she talked nigh how Bertrand influenced her own arroyo to parenting.
"My mom always made information technology clear that I was her friend—and that is a lesson on how to bring upwards my own children," she toldThe Sunday in 2011. "When we talked, I felt she wanted to hear what I had to say. She enjoyed me and I experience I'm enjoying my kids." She concluded, "If everyone ever tells me that I am a mother to them like my mom was to me, information technology volition be a neat compliment."
Her female parent was even an influence in Jolie's decision to become a face of Guerlain, calling it a make Bertrand loved. "She was a very natural woman who never spoiled herself, never wore makeup, and wore modest jewelry," the actress recalled to Marie Claire, "but she e'er had a few special items for when she wanted to feel like a lady."
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And terminal year, in the thick of her divorce from Brad Pitt, Jolie toldElle France(perW), "I know how much she would have contributed to [my kids'] lives and I am sad they will miss out on that. I would give anything for her to be with me at this time. I've needed her. I talk to her ofttimes in my mind and try to call up what she might say and how she might guide me."
Ironically, it was too Jolie'due south unexpectedly messy divorce that has brought her dad back into her life in a new, meaningful way.
"She'due south OK," Voight told Eastward! News in December 2016, a few months after she filed for divorce and the proceedings well-nigh immediately took a surprisingly contentious plough. "She's holding on." He said he was hoping to come across his grandchildren at Christmas fourth dimension.
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Because all that had come earlier, still, it was unclear as to just how in the loop theRay Donovanstar actually was.
Then it was adequately noteworthy when Jolie was spotted having dinner with her dad and four of her kids in May 2017, only like a bunch of normal people.
"He's been very good at understanding they needed their grandpa at this fourth dimension," Jolie told Vanity Fair in the summer of 2017. "I had to do a therapy meeting final night and he was just around. He knows kind of the dominion—don't make them play with y'all. Merely be a absurd grandpa who's creative, and hang out and tell stories and read a volume in the library."
Grandpa'south got plenty of stories, that's for certain. Like his daughter, the prolific actor is an Oscar winner—All-time Actor for 1978'southComing Dwelling house—and starred in such seminal films equallyMidnight Cowboy andDeliverance. George's "Jon Voight car," a Chrysler LeBaron, made for one ofSeinfeld's most memorable running jokes (he made a cameo in 1994) and he has besides used his reputation for gravitas to great comedic effect in movies likeZoolander andTropic Thunder(Ben Stiller must exist a fan). Overall, he's been 1 of the busiest actors in Hollywood for the by 60 years, in everything fromTake hold of-22 andThe Champ toVarsity Blues,Anaconda andMission: Impossible.
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Voight certainly helped spark Jolie's passion for movies. Her outset pic role came (credited as "Angelina Jolie Voight") at seven years quondam inHal Ashby'sLookin' to Get Out—starring her male parent and featuring her mom in a bit function as "Girl in Jeep."
Angelina and James, forth with their grandma Barbara Voight, attended their first Academy Awards in 1986 with Voight when he was nominated forDelinquent Train. (Though Jolie's start trip to the Oscars could too exist considered 1975, when a significant Bertrand attended with her hubby.)
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"I'm proud of the way they've turned out," Voight said in reminiscing about a photo from that night with the Daily Mail in 2014. "Angelina has to deal with fame in a way I never had to. She once said that she learned a lot nigh acting by noticing how I would discover people in everyday life in lodge to become similar them. I'grand fascinated by people."
At the same fourth dimension, Voight being such a large star meant that it was possibly easier for Jolie to catch a break but also harder to shake her dad'due south shadow.
"I did non want to exist Voight, as an actress, because people would react to the proper name," Jolie told The Sun in 2011. "Dad always used to apologize, when I was young, for the fact that manufactures described me equally 'Jon Voight's daughter.'" (More recently she acknowledged, "I didn't feel that close to my male parent. I felt more of my mother'south daughter when I was a child. And then that was one role of information technology.")
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And then it'south not as if he and Jolie didn't talk for 30 years. Though she had problems with her father early on—widely attributed to adultery during his marriage—once Bertrand moved the kids back from New York to L.A. when Jolie was xi, she saw Voight more often.
She got her own apartment at 16 and her career started to take off with 1995'sHackers. Then she won Golden Globes in 1998, 1999 and 2000 for, respectively, the TV moviesGeorge WallaceandGiaand soDaughter, Interrupted.
Voight regularly sang his upwards-and-coming extra daughter's praises in his ain interviews, calling her a great talent.
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Asked how she felt about post-obit her father into movie stardom, she told Rolling Rock in 1999, "I think information technology's probably healthy not to put too much thought into that. It's an interesting thing, because I retrieve nosotros speak to each other a lot through our work. You don't actually know your parents in a certain mode, and they don't really know you. Like, y'all know, he met my husband and we'd go to dinner, but he still had his opinion of me as his daughter.
"So he can kind of sentry a picture show and see how I am every bit a woman, the way I am dealing with a hubby who's been injured or the way I am crying alone. And it's the same for me: I can lookout films of his and only see who he is. Merely not growing up in the same house and feeling that he really did belong to the globe... as I've gotten older I learned to communicate with him as a person."
Though Jolie's 2000 Oscar acceptance spoken language has been remembered more than for her proverb, "I'one thousand so in love with my brother right now," she besides said in her list of give thanks-you lot, "Dad, you're a cracking thespian but you lot're a better father."
"Information technology's quite astonishing," Jolie told reporters afterward, admitting she'd never held an Oscar before. "My dad's mother had his in a goldfish bowl or something, on the mantelpiece in New York. It was, like, style up and I never held it. Y'all just kind of figure it's the foreign thing in grandma's business firm."
That June she told CBS News that Voight very much appreciated the shout-out.
"He told me that that was i of the...biggest compliments somebody could requite him, that information technology was and so of import to be a great father," she said. "And and then it was a really special night for everybody in my family."
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In the glow of her Oscar win, Voight played her male parent in Lara Croft: Tomb Raider, which came out in 2001. Jolie has said that getting in shape for that film was instrumental in steering her away from the life of backlog (especially in the smoking and drinking department) she'd been living. "I eat nothing but red meat," she toldRolling Rockin 1999.
The late '90s and early '00s were, of course, considered peak wild child days for Angelina, when she was exuding sex appeal, wearing her passions on her sleeve and being mistakenly characterized as either deranged or depressive. (She did, however, sink into a depression afterward shootingGia, which took a lot out of her, just the overwhelmingly positive feedback she received once the film premiered helped a lot.)
"People do always retrieve that considering I have tattoos, I'k bad, or that there'due south something very dark about me, or that I think near expiry," Jolie told RS in 1999. "And I'k probably the least morbid person. I've kind of discovered that if I think almost death much more than some people take, information technology'due south probably because I love life more than those people."
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She seemed dangerously in love with both of her husbands, wearing a shirt with the groom's name written on information technology in her claret when she married Jonny Lee Miller, and so sleeping under the framed words "TO THE END OF Time" (also in her blood) when she was married toBilly Bob Thornton. She also toldGirlfriends mag in 1997 that she probably would have married Jenny Shimizu if she hadn't married Miller.
Meanwhile, information technology was noted in a 2001Rolling Rock profile that she and Thornton had in their living room two framed drawings and poems about their relationship penned by Voight.
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Jolie besides said of her long-divorced parents, neither of whom had remarried, "They are really good friends. They're probably each other's closest friends. It's going to be weird for them to read that probably, merely information technology's truthful." In 2000 she brought her dad and brother with her to anEsquire interview at the reporter's house; the author later noted that Voight seemed worried about Jolie, in a father-daughter fashion, and she had mentioned how dad and blood brother had been encouraging her to eat something on the ride over.
Tomb Raider came out in June 2001 and Jolie and Voight (and Thornton) were at the pic's L.A. premiere.
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But something went terribly incorrect over the side by side year, considering on Aug. 1, 2002, Voight infamously toldAdmission Hollywood that his girl had "mental issues" and needed assistance.
The aforementioned mean solar day he toldE! News Live that, when he saw her earlier that twelvemonth at Paramount's 90th ceremony party, "I ran to give her a hug, and one of her representatives stepped in my mode and said, 'Go back.' She'south been staying away from me considering she knows I've been trying to achieve her to get help." She was suffering from "serious emotional problems that I have witnessed very closely."
Voight added, "I've always been there for my kids, always been at that place for the family." He said he had not yet met his grandson Maddox, whom Jolie adopted from Cambodia in March 2002. "Information technology'southward a cracking hurting that I haven't been able to run into the baby," he continued. "The reason for my plea is not for myself. I want zilch more than to hold my infant in my arms. I desire to tell Angie that I love her and I desire her to go the help she needs...And I want her to find true love."
Jolie, who had filed for divorce from Thornton in July, toldAccess Hollywood in a argument, "I don't want to make public the reasons for my bad relationship with my male parent. I will merely say that similar every child, [James] and I would have loved to have had a warm and loving relationship with our dad. Afterward all these years, I have determined that it is not good for you for me to exist around my father, especially at present that I am responsible for my own child."
That September, she legally dropped "Voight" from her name. And they did not talk for years.
"My father and I don't speak," Jolie told Premierein 2004. "I don't hold whatsoever anger toward him. I don't believe that somebody'due south family becomes their claret. Considering my son's adopted, and families are earned. When I had the final argument/thwarting with my father—we've had many off and on—I had thought we were breaking ground, and I realized we merely weren't.
"We were dorsum to where nosotros always were, not a place where I felt healthy or good when I was around him. And information technology's merely that. In that location's no anger. I experience for him. I feel if he'due south got problems, mayhap he thinks I do. We all practice, maybe, but the amount of tears shed growing up, and the amount of screaming matches and the amount of insecurities seen [impacting] on my mother and my brother considering of fights and things said is simply not healthy.
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"I have to exist strong for my son," Jolie said, "and I don't desire to have in his environment something that upsets me and makes his female parent non every bit strong. St it'south simple—no negative feelings, it is only not salubrious for me to have that contact with my begetter."
(She was in the process of finding true love, just in that October 2004 interview she shook her caput at the rumors there was something going on with her andMr. and Mrs. Smith co-star Brad Pitt. "Every time I exercise a pic, I'm leap to be in the news dating my costar," she remarked.)
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A cover story on Jolie in the January 2007 outcome ofVogue noted that they hadn't spoken in v years, though they would talk extremely briefly later that month when Jolie called to tell him that Bertrand had died.
While talking to the magazine in late 2006, Jolie reiterated that she was very close to her mother, only wasn't ane to lay her troubles at Bertrand'south doorstep.
"I don't trust anyone," she explained. "Yeah. I don't think information technology'southward a skilful thing. This is going to make you recall that maybe I should get some therapy, but trust is such a baroque word. I'd similar to say that I trust my mother, just I as well don't know if she might practise something that she thinks is in my all-time involvement. I trust that Brad will never do anything...I don't know. I don't trust anybody completely."
(Not surprisingly then, when Voight was asked past a paparazzo on his way out of the 50.A. airport last year if he knew almost the bad experience his girl had with Harvey Weinstein two decades before, which she had just shared with theNew York Times—the answer was no. "Angie's spoken near that and that's information technology," he said, refusing to comment farther.)
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Two days afterward 1000-twins Knox and Vivienne Jolie-Pitt were born in France in July 2008, Voight acknowledged that he hadn't however spoken to his daughter, simply he felt, "like any father, it'due south the most exciting thing that a new soul is coming in."
"You know, I don't think there'southward anything more exciting than that," the actor, co-starring on 24 at the time, likewise told E! News at the Idiot box Critics Association summer press tour in Los Angeles. "And that they're Angie'southward babies, and Brad'south, all my love goes to them. I was very excited. I was only as excited every bit everybody else."
He wasn't sure when he was going to get to encounter his newest grandchildren only, Voight said, "If I'm asked, I'll discover a way. But I haven't been asked."
Maybe it was finally being in a stable long-term partnership and wanting her half-dozen kids to know their grandfather, combined with the fact that she was down to one parent, that eventually got Jolie thinking about a reconciliation.
In mid-2010, she told Parade that she and her begetter were making efforts to repair their relationship.
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Voight showed up for the Hollywood premiere of her 2011 directorial debut, the Bosnian war drama In the Land of Claret and Honey, and at the finish of the year she told Marie Claire that all wasn't perfect simply they were in each other's lives once again.
"He's met the kids and they've met him, and I retrieve that'southward important that they tin practise that," Jolie said in the Jan 2012 issue. "We're in each other's lives, just we don't, as a rule, discuss the past. When my mother passed, I had to be the one to call him and tell him. I was going to write information technology in a letter because I hadn't spoken to him in half-dozen years, but I realized that I had to make a telephone call. We spoke for near two minutes. I wasn't calling to accept care of him. I was calling to pass on information. So it was a very brief conversation."
In 2013, Voight said that they were "back on track."
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"I'm very proud of her," he said onCBS This Morning, "and I'm so happy with the grandchildren."
Asked if he was a hands-on granddad, he told Gayle King, "I, well, I endeavour to be, yeah. I spoil the kids as much equally I can," Voight added with a grin. "I'm crazy about 'em."
He was not at the wedding when Jolie and Pitt decided to get married in 2014—but then again, only 22 people were there, including Maddox, Pax, Zahara, Shiloh, Knox and Vivienne (and Brad's parents).
But they did indeed seem at least back on atrack, which was an achievement after having gone entirely off the runway.
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More than recently people took note when Voight joined in September 2017 for the New York premiere of her latest directorial effort (and son Maddox Jolie-Pitt's first producing credit),First They Killed My Male parent, their outset time at the aforementioned result, on purpose, in years.
"Jon and I have gotten to know each other—through grandchildren now," Jolie said onThe Hollywood Reporter's Awards Chatterpodcast last year. "We're finding a new relationship...We've had some difficulties, [simply] through art nosotros've been able to talk. It's the common language."
While Jolie is more cause than candidate-driven when it comes to politics, one can estimate which way the longtime humanitarian activist leans. Meanwhile, Voight has become 1 of Hollywood'south more than well-known conservatives.
"Nosotros don't really talk politics well," Jolie acknowledged. "We talk art very well."
Politics aside, things accept calmed down in Jolie'due south life somewhat—or at least they're back to their normal rhythm. She'll exist making a return to the big screen inMaleficent 2, which she shot this year in London; she remains a tireless advocate for bettering atmospheric condition around the world for women and children; and she and Pitt finally reached a custody agreement after more than 2 years of mud-slinging, just in time to not accept to leave it upward to a judge.
And Voight is back in the loop, enough to know when we defenseless up with him in Dec that his daughter'south latest movie had wrapped and that anything more personal "isn't for [him] to say."
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